We were discusing as usaul when all of a sudden her voice changed; her face hardned and i could sense the Anger; pain; and seriouness in her heart. At first i took it for a joke but she continued, and instead of a normal conversation, she started yelling ;then i decided to take a Deep breathe to understand what ever message she was trying to convey . She has been My Friend for a while, and i have seen her angry so many times but the tone of her voice and the Look on her face this time was something else; I got Up from where i was laying on My bed and sat Down with smiles on My face graudaully changing to seriouness too. Then she paused. Our eyes glued to each other, I could see litle tears she was trying to withhold from falling, then i started to feel bad for not taking her serious initially.; I said to her; ok continue without Knowing that the reaon she paused was to summoned Courage in other to finish what she started.
Her Words…….No No No. You Dont understand, I am tired of You or other people calling me a WHITE person even when My color is Black; My parents are Black and african. Really i am tired of You asking me if i know what it feels to live Out of the SYSTEM when i know how My parents suffered to migrate from East Africa to Europe three decades ago. Just because i was børn and raised here does not mean i am exempted from Daily disdanful comments and attitude by the System and people of this country. Ok. Good. I am fluent in the Danish language Yes but i should.;Just like any child børn and raised in the country be it Dansk or immigrant; for the fact i enroled from Kindergarten to high school is enough to be fluent in the language. I Said ok….But she continued. Do You know how many times i have been turned Down from a good paying job Just because of My color?;Even when the job was aproved on Telephone interview but only to be denied at the very end. Do You know how frustrated i feel when people told me they thought i was White person Due to the way i speak on Telephone? Do You know how it feels to be raised outside your race; country, culture, and people? Do You how bad i feel when i am Not seen as an Eriterain or Black person Even when am Black? Do You know how Strange it feels when You visit your country and was seen as turist instead of Citizen? Do You know how bad it hurts not to have same equal opportunities as every other Kid even in the country You were born and raised?! I was silent; not surprise at her recountings having lived in Europe almost a decade,judging from My own experiences, i could recall some of her facts; but i was knocked out when she drew the last stroke that broke the carmel’s back by saying.! Do You know what it feels like not to be accepted by the people of Your own color and country of your parents and at the same time not accepted by the country of Your birth??🙁😭 it was then the tears she had been trying to withhold started to fall from her eyes.;. It was only then i realized that though she and other of her likes børn and raised in europe by immigrants Parents dough May have a Better future than immigrants like myself that were børn and raised in africa.; but that does not take away their everyday battles such as Racism and rejections. Their struggle to be accepted fully into the country they were børn and raised or even the country of their Heritage.❤️.Its true..No paradise without Hell…only then i reslized How Lucky i am to have a place i truely belong and accepted…..Africa My fatherland❤️..
Written by…chukwu. Aku
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the untold Realities 