With a face and Voice full of rage i could see the Pain in his Voice as much as the love for his daughter whose custody is being denied from him, *** bro ( he continued) Can you imagine I travel from copenhagen denmark to Stockholm Sweden to see my daughter as mandated of me once every month for the past 6years by the this bias Swedish court. To my surprise on reaching there today i got a text message by this woman that she could not make it, after a journey of 6hours !!! most times I would be made to wait for hours for her to show up despite that she resides 30munites away from the location agreed in her favour by the court as Our Meeting place. the worst of it is that most times this woman i once had as my Wife (ex Wife) would not allow me to speak with my daughter on the phone, all these i have explained to the judges and the social workers assigned to us to no avail . She is doing everything at her power to get at me without minding the effects on Our only child.
I am worried that i might not see my daughter in time to come if this coninue this Way .
What do i do? I dont want to lose my daughter to this ingrate of a woman he Said to me as i Watch him in total dismay and pity ; Maybe You change your Lawyer i suggested; Yea; you are right thats exactaly What i Will do.
I really dont know the problem with us african migrants when it comes to marriage in Europe maybe it’s the fault of the system that gave much power to women over male when it comes to marraige or it’s a Well planed orcharstered system of destroying people or color household by removing the male figure in live of there children. This was my fear of raising a family/children in Europe because like Omar 90% of men of color lost Their children custody and have Their family destroyed as Well .
Having not only read on the news the mass restriant, divources; separation, and destruction of marriages of people of color in western world, i witness few, with out apportioning blames only to Our women because Our men shares to a degree, However the benefits that accrue to the single mother scheme and the support given to Them by the western government and the system has given rise to the mass destruction of families espcially that of people of color whose women see it as avenue of making extra money and Living large even to the detriment of Their children .
My biggest pain is; i was the person that brought this woman to Europe Said Omar I remember him telling me this story the first time he came back from Sweden on similer character after a failed expectation from the court proceedings. I married this woman in Gambia ; did everything for her paid for her flight, shelter, feed and clothed her and fought for her resident permit without knowing that she has an ulterior motive, after a year We welcome Our daughter together Then she started giving problems,i would go to work in the morning only to come back and be nagged at, issues We could settle within ourself she would involve the police even after i plead and plead for her not involve the police for the sake of Our child, i was asked to leave my place and given a perimeter avoidance or risk going to jail. I am really heartbroken he Said. You must stay stronge i Said to him; if not for anything for your daughter.
I decided to go inside my room leaving him in the kitchen; even inside my room his ordeal and issues kept me restless as i tried to ponder on the Reason behind the behaviour of women of color to Their Husband or partner here in Europe .
It is at alarming the level of divource and child custody fight among the people of color in 21st century in the US and Europe, but more alarming are the effects of this foolishiness either in the Name of equality; monetry gain; and power on the children as a result of which social and Home training of these children are totally destroyed.
Every child deserve the affection of both parent for a better society until proven otherwise and children that are natured by both parentes stands out; if our society are to become better socially economically and otherwise it high time We stop indirect systematical destruction of families through the scheme that encourages single parenting financially or otherwise because in the end it’s Our societies that Bears the brunt.
the untold Realities 