Children are priceless gifts irrespective of the circumstances by which they are conceived; their birth is thrilled with emotions and awesomeness. Life is more precious and immaculate at birth, which explains the overwhelming protections assigned to kids at tender ages.
Why have a child of which fatherly access would be denied from you in the future!? It’s a million questions every male black migrant in Europe must consider before contemplating having a child… It is perceived mostly by black male migrants that one of the easiest ways of obtaining a resident permit is by having a child together with a female citizen of the country of residence. Even without a proper knowledge of the said lady or country’s laws in regards to the benefits that accrue from fatherhood, which is not enough reason in my perspective. The future of our children should be our priority and must be considered in our every-day decisions even prior to their birth.
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I was on the phone yesterday with a friend that was deported to Nigeria from Austria. 🇦🇹last month I was unable to sustain the conversation for a longer period because of the tones of his language and the bitterness in his voice. Suddenly he was crying deeply. His pain was not the deportation but his three grown children that he may likely not see again. I could remember early 2011 how happy he was and often seen with his three beautiful and handsome kids two girls and a boy. He was indeed a careering father not one of the irresponsible ones. Every one of us that newly came admired him and wished to be like him . A dream lot of us are thankful for not coming through today because of the high rate of deportation of male black migrants that have childrein Europe without their children at any slightest misdemeanor ),s) even the most lenient ones.Crimes are not good irrespective of reasons behind them, I hereby condemn it in every way, but however when a man with a family is involved the punishment should be separated from his entire family, his crime should not be used as a yardstick to destroy the lives of his children by perpetually taking his presence away from them in way of deportation and banishment after serving his terms in correctional facilities. The trauma effects experienced by young people of color whose parents (especially fathers) are deported and banned from entering the county even on a visit is unjustifiable to children with good relationships with their fathers; it results in total breakdowns of behavior, morals and leads to crime in return. Some people argue that the pain of divorces and child custody fights among people of color in
Some people argue that the pain of divorces and child custody fights among people of color in Europe is equivalent to that of deportation, but it’s not true. Though it’s quite unfortunate that most people of color do not consider the well-being and the future of their child/children in their decision. However, deportation and child custody are totally different issues and not compared. Truth be told, the majority of mixed race children in Europe hitherto either do not *have a father*, do not know who their father is*, do not know where their father is*, and do not have a fatherly upbringing.
In other words, their father is either barred by the system, denied access, incarcerated or deported, or decided not to participate in the nurturing Their kids.
Be that as it may
Then I ask! Why have children? It’s true that people are of different reasoning, and also circumstances play some roles every now and then, but whatever the reason, we should not trade our children as a means rather than an end. it’s high time people of color especially(males)stop trading the future of their children for residents permit which does not confer an equal rights enjoyed by the citizens of their said country of residence. And if you must raise family in this part of the world save your child/children the future torture of your absence either in correctional facilities or deportation by not going against the law of the land of which you resides..Our children are our continuity may we never be found missing in their lives and may we never deny them the benefit of fatherhood ❤️
the untold Realities 