What would your life be like without music?

Honestly, I love music, especially in my emotional highs and lows, for I understand the lyrics better, With the volume tuned down, I could dance around in happiness or as well cry under my blanket of bitterness. However, my life would likely have turned out the same because I seldom listen to music and am not up to date with new songs. I could stay quite a longer period without listening to One. When I hear people say they cannot go a day without music, I ask myself if I am normal because I am opposite. As an introvert, I prefer and  love the tranquillity of my environment, which I enjoy the most. Which is not to say I do not enjoy the good rhythm of music and its allures.

How do you celebrate holidays?

I eagerly anticipate my holidays every year. However, the length and season determine how they are spent. Generally, I prefer spending holidays—both short and long—with my family, depending on the time of year. I will never forget the December trip I took to see my parents back home and the happiness on their faces at my arrival.Long holidays enable me to visit my extended relatives, while short ones are exclusively spent with my immediate family indoors and outdoors.

Share a lesson you wish you had learned earlier in life.

Patience .Had I known the remarks of my father to me . I told myself that after many years I could have waited a little bit longer, but the stress of moving to the city wouldn’t let me. Even before I took my last secondary school exams, I knew I wanted to move to the city to get away from my parents’ influence and get into a university before my friends. My parents and siblings both urged me to hold off on moving a little while longer, but their advice was ignored. My experiences in the city upon arriving and during my whole stay were nothing but regret to this date. Which always reminds me of my father’s words,  *had I known is always a brother to Mr. Late.

Do you see yourself as a leader?

Leadership qualities are not traits one conveys to oneself; they’re characteristics exhibited through character and decisions in every given circumstance. Many will not hesitate to say they have such qualities until the conditions arise. The ability to set direction to help oneself and others do what is right and move forward is not common. Then I asked myself! Do I have leadership qualities? It’s not in my position to rate myself, but rather by examples and the words of people around me at work and home. Because our true mirrors are not ones that reflect our images in our bedroom rather than our thoughts, ,beliefs, and behaviours in everyday dealings in life. With this, I may not be wrong to admit I have leadership qualities ( I wrote this while a break period at work).

What’s your favorite word?

Strong, or better say strength. In my experience of life to date, I have admired the zeal with which people navigate out of their struggles, and I never fail to applaud such individuals that surpassed their unforeseen and unfortunate circumstances through sheer determination and strength. Many times I have looked back in wonder and admiration at how things that were meant to kill us only made us stronger.Knowing that none is coming to save me, I have no option other than to save myself, for one may not know how strong one is until being strong becomes the only option. Reason I titled my unfinished book The Beauty of the Inner Strength (coming soon)

What are you doing this evening?

Personally, I am not among those that schedule their daily routines because mine are naturally scheduled. I came home late this morning after eight hours of work and couldn’t sleep because I had to work online, which took about two hours only to find myself in bed by six am. I hardly closed my eyes before being woken by the sound of my family. My spouse says it’s time for school as my lovely daughters jump all around me. It’s already 8pm. Drop them off at school and rush home to nap only to realise it’s already noon and they will soon be home again. So what else am I doing this evening being the only free time I have if not to spend it with my family, especially my younger daughters, as I will be leaving for work in the few hours? Taking advantage of my presence in their lives to create beautiful memories together, knowing that time is of the essence ❤️

What personality trait in people raises a red flag with you?

Dishonesty . I am no saint and can never exonerate myself of this act, but it’s never as a trait . As an introvert, I detest talks that don’t elevate my dreams and better my soul.Having a smaller circle of friends, I never mind it getting smaller as long as they are all honest people. Also not a mind reader or soothsayer, but many times I could tell when one is dishonest or lying in their communication.immediately draws a red flag. Nothing is worse than having people in our lives who are untrustworthy and deceitfully insincere, whose motives for being around are to take advantage of our trust and exploit and also mislead us.Staying true to my values, I am of the belief that having one or two people that are honest is better than a thousand personality traits of dishonesty and lying. Reasons for my smaller circle 

Describe your ideal week.

My dream week …I always wait until the last minute to find out how my weeks will go.My perfect week could only be determined at the eleventh hour because I work the night shift and return home only to care for my two lovely young girls, regardless of how exhausted I am. What appears to be a picture-perfect week could be spoilt at the last minute, so it’s never about the stresses that come with the beehives activities at work and at home, but rather energy that complement it. The best scenario would be to spend time with my family, work in a setting that allows for some flexibility, and then curl up on my bed with blankets after a successful week… or better say an ideal week

How do you relax?

I know I am relaxed…It’s something I seldom have because even when I am less busy, I am not still relaxed. Most days that I find lucky, I will light my spiff with two or three puffs and calm country music in the background. I desist myself from everything else wearing me down and out and enjoy the beauty of presence. Apparently appreciating the wonderful things in my life, even the smallest things that make the present moment. I may be relaxed while having an evening walk or sitting in my backyard admiring the highs and lows of how life could have been worse, but it’s not . Relaxation to me is spiritual because it recharges and renews my being. Many at times I wander into the future with ease  guided by the lessons of my past.  I know I am relaxed when my spirit and body are at peace, irrespective of my circumstances. 

If you had to give up one word that you use regularly, what would it be?

Fuck is the word. It’s my means of expressing anxiety, stress, and unease. How ever it’s another word to relate my indifference in a situation that offers no benefit. So many times I detest myself for my inability to limit its use for time without numbers. I have used it the word fuck in front of my young, beautiful daughters . Lately I managed to curb this addiction of words, knowing that anger and anxieties trigger it. I tried to abscond situations that would lead to it.